Self esteem and self trust/building them up over life

I believe that self esteem is the same as self respect. Esteem is the regard in which one is held.

Do you hold yourself in high esteem?
If you do, you respect yourself. If you don't, why not?

Self respect can be for characteristics that define you, are you honest? dependable? faithful?

It can be for what you do, are you hardworking? helpful?
Do you do what you say you will do?
Did you do what you said you did?
Do you face your fears?
Do you take on hard challenges? and hang in there till you succeed?

When you consistently live a life worthy of esteem, you will have self esteem. It's never too late to start, each day is a new beginning. Each interaction with integrity puts a brick on your foundation.

Sometimes we are aware of our shortcomings, but not as able to list our strengths. That's out of balance, we need to know both equally well.

Self trust is learned through trial and error. When you are steering your own life ship, down
the channel or to the rocks, it's your ship. When you examine the lessons and gifts in each
of your choices, you learn how to make choices that serve you. Those are often not the choices
someone else would choose for you. You have to figure out your own way. If you're doing things someone elses way, you're living their life, not yours. You may choose some of what's
suggested to you, not a problem, if you've examined them and determined they are right for you.

There are no perfect choices, each one has pros and cons.

Know the pros and cons well, because when you make the choice, it's the whole package you're choosing, not just the upside. Take the time to examine them carefully, and don't choose prematurely.

If you can't choose, it's usually because you need to gather more information. You'll make
the decision when you have enough information, and if you feel you're stuck, get individual work to figure it out.

It is YOUR reponsibility to take care of yourself, unless you're a child or majorly impaired.
You can learn the ways that work for you. It requires self examination. I recommend
journaling, not a diary, but a book of questions that you ask yourself and answer. Like:

What supports me getting where I need to go?
What's holding me back?
Who's helping?
Who's holding me back?

Each page is a question, and you can go back and add to your answers.
Answering the questions will bring up more questions that get new pages.
Self examination is key. You have your own answers in you, you need to find them.
If you have trouble, come in for help.